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A Journey to the Centre of the Happiness Experience Matrix!
"I am charged with electricity" (Dr Hans Selye; The Stress of Life)
The realities and consequences of stress at all levels of connection, stimulation and tension in our tribes.
The Universal Map of the 7 Emotions is an original human experience at the heart of our vital sensoromotor energy, our psycho-corporal reactions, our emotions and our history. It is literally a journey to the centre of the emotional brain, to the heart of the memory-reaction circuits of stress, pleasure and pain.
Inspired by the work of Hans Selye, Henri Laborit and Antonio Damasio, it is a unique tool to better understand the mechanics of happiness and the roots of unhappiness, between the satisfaction of our 350 universal needs, the reaction of our 3 natural stresses, the orientation of our 7 emotions and the emotional digestion of pain in 5 steps.
52 boxes to open to learn the 5 languages of love, the 8 emotional bugs, the 7 wounds of the heart and Karpman's Dramatic Triangle (Victim - Saviour - Persecutor).
To read the Universal Map of the 7 Emotions, browse the table below and don't forget to click on the "+" icons on the right to access the contents to be discovered.
Sensorimotor Vital Energy
The Tension & Détente 'Feeling Machine
The mechanics of our "Feeling Machine": needs, shortages and resources:
1) The signal of need : tension in the body, charge in intensity, alerted by sensations.
2) The tension of need : increased tension, risk of alarm with emotions.
3) The response to the need : solution to the need, adaptation to the situation, bug control (respect for limits, awareness of abuse and absence of empathy), reaction control.
4) The relaxation of satisfaction : relaxation in the body, relief from cravings, the well-being of satisfaction, a feeling of success and joy.
N.B & Experts : 350 universal human needs at several levels of organisation (the needs of the body, the heart, the mind, etc.). To satisfy our needs, we first need the power to feel well to identify them with our 5 senses; then to think well to solve them with our 7 emotions; then to react well to satisfy them with our 3 stresses and finally to remember well to gain experience with our 2 motivations.
The 4 Times of Feelings
The 4 tenses of feelings :
1) The tension in the body, the impulses and impressions of the moment (the movement of stress; the excitement of the moment for example).
2) FeelingsIn this way, you can take advantage of a wide range of stimuli and perceptions in the moment (contact with the 5 senses; the pleasure of the moment, for example).
3) Emotionsreactions to opportunities and threats in the situation (the orientation of the 7 emotions; the joy of an event, for example).
4) FeelingsIt is the interpretation over time and the emotional digestion of the story in question (awareness of the memory; the feeling of satisfaction after a successful experience, for example).
Meeting Needs
Step-by-step satisfaction for feeling, thinking, acting and remembering :
1) Observe the situation (perception of the environment, context and resources).
2) Feel your real needs (listening to your body and being aware of your needs).
3) Master its reaction (think about its "Strengths - Weaknesses - Opportunities - Threats", check its 8 emotional bugs).
4) Think to the different solutions for satisfying the real need (the 3 options for "Going towards Things - Avoiding Things - Resting" to better know what to do).
5) Act in practical terms and step by step, possibly incorporating time into the know-how (time for action, taking into account the improvement in skills and gains in experience through learning).
6) Enjoy Relief of the need and improvement of things (level of relaxation, gain in satisfaction).
7) Remembering experience (the right choice of solution, the value of action, awareness of improvement).
N.B & ExpertsTension => Stimulation => Perception => Interpretation => Reaction => Satisfaction => Memory. O.S.B.D. in Non-Violent Communication to learn how to express your Observation, Feeling, Need and Request. With the pleasure & reward circuit to memorise the pattern to be repeated. With the pain & punishment circuit to memorise the pattern to avoid. With the insular cortex for a healthy interpretation with common sense and good taste. With the mnemonic "Stress Disorder" when there is a reactionary short-circuit or an emotional disorder in the system as a result of shortcomings or significant shocks.
The 5 Love Languages
The 5 Love Languages to fill our Affective Reservoirs :
1) Responsible support (real attention, active help, committed benevolence).
2) Gestures of tenderness (warm touch, respectful hugs, hugs, cuddles).
3) The moments of sharing and quality (laughter, games, complicity, intimacy, authenticity).
4) Positive words and recognition ("Yes", "Great", "Bravo", "I love you", "Sorry", "Thank you").
5) The gifts and festivals (sharing, celebration, gratification, ritual, reward).
N.B & ExpertsSeveral typologies for transactions, signs of gratification, signs of distinction and strokes in giving and receiving stimuli (Dr Eric Berne, Dr Henri Laborit, Claude Steiner, Pierre Bourdieu, etc.). The one above is by Gary Chapman, author of several well-known books. According to Gary Chapman, there are 2 love languages preferred by each person, and it is important to identify them clearly within your relationship.
The Roots of Ill-being
The 4 stages of unhappiness :
1) The pain of the 7 emotional wounds (repeated shortcomings, shocks, abuse and neglect in our tribes; the tragedy of historical emotional illiteracy in our families...).
2) Repression of emotions (denial of the realities of stress, freezing of stress-related tensions, inhibition of action, justification to forget the pain).
3) The psycho-corporal closure of the person (pain blocking, memory freezing, emotional defence, social masking).
4) Stress-related mnemonic disorders (emotional bugs, abusive compulsions, toxic ruminations, destructive impulses, somatic inflammations).
N.B & Experts : Dr Henri Laborit in 1979 for the discovery of the impact of inhibiting action and repressing emotions (Albert Lasker Prize, WHO Medal). The American Psychiatric Association in 1980 for the mnemonic "Stress Disorder" following shock, lack and abuse (P.T.S.D). Happy Power = Feel well with the 5 senses + Think well with the 7 emotions + Act well with the 3 stresses + Remember well with the 2 motivations. Stress Disorder = Dissociation of the 5 senses + Misinterpretation of the 7 emotions + "Passive-aggressive-abusive" compulsion of the 3 stresses + Denial of the 2 motivations (a certain disregard for pleasure and pain).
The 7 Wounds of the Heart
The Cycle "Oh, M.A.M.A, Mia!" from the Lack and Abuse
The cycle of destructiveness and toxicity with the rebound effect of "Lack - Abuse - Contempt - Abandonment":
1) Missing painful for natural needs and normal limits (emotional illiteracy, lack of hope for healthy satisfaction, disregard for stress in our families, denial of the pain in our hearts, toxic pleasure in abuse, 'mockery' of Happy Power...).
2) Abuse compensatory with toxic pleasure and abusive power to stifle pain ("stress disorder" with greed, vanity, cupidity, seduction, impulse, compulsive consumption and lies about satisfying needs, etc.).
3) Contempt the realities of the heart and the social consequences (disgust, rejection, saturation, hatred, disgust...).
4) Moral abandonment of the mind (lack of shame, destructiveness, toxicity, "I don't give a fuck"...).
The Emotional Freeze
The freezing of emotions and the impact of pain :
1) Dissociation of emotions / inflammation around pain (anaesthesia, cleavage, somatisation).
2) Rumination of emotions / procrastination around pain (anguish, helplessness, rage, despair, depression).
3) Reversal of emotions / dramatisation around pain (shame, guilt, sabotage, isolation, lack, abuse, perversion).
4) Abandonment of emotions/agitation around pain (complacency, disregard, rejection, saturation, excess, burn-out, mania).
5) Obsession with emotions / compulsion around pain (emotional dependence, sexual drive, food stress, addiction, seduction, abuse of power).
The Typology of Injuries
The typology of wounds, otherwise translatable into pain of lack :
1) Severe shock or traumatic at once (accident, shock, physical shock, sexual abuse...).
2) Painful stimuli with repetition (humiliation, harassment, abuse of power, brainwashing...).
3) Sudden break-up of contact at once (abandonment, bereavement, disappearance, betrayal, "radio silence" in the link...).
4) Lack of contact with repetition (neglect, deficiency, emotional "hot-cold", emotional "yo-yo",...).
5) Toxic saturation pleasure in one go (shocking excitement, body disgust, pathological "ignition"...).
6) Untimely abuse pleasure with repetition (abusive intrusion, toxic mothering, poisonous practice, early discovery...).
N.B & Experts : Socially, "It's for your own good, don't say anything" remains the main toxic justification or abusive excuse for denying stress. Scientifically, the main passive illusion or sick response to the denial of pain is to "forget it, it's in the past". We are asked to close our eyes to the scientific realities of stress (Dr Henri LABORIT; Dr Susan FORWARD). We are asked to forget the psychosocial consequences of pain (Dr Marshall ROSENBERG; Alice MILLER).
The 4 Brains of the Body
The Time-Spaces of Satisfaction in Decision-Making
The Brain in Pieces
The Happiness Strategy
The strategy of happiness (or S.W.O.T of the Heart)
1) Going for the healthy opportunities (realistic situation, responsible person, fulfilling environment ...).
2) Avoiding toxic threats (abusive person, false relationship, poisonous situation, endangerment...).
3) Developing resources, capacities or strengths (positive experience, brain expertise, body energy, resources of money, information, technology, friends...).
4) Limiting shortcomings, false beliefs or weaknesses (cultivating health, contact, abilities, talents, value creation, signs of distinction...).
The 3 Stress Reactions
The 3 natural stress strategies (or the 3 universal movements at the basis of all our reactions):
1) Go to contact / Movement towards the positive, reward or pleasure (Move Towards Connection).
2) Avoiding contact / Movement to avoid negativity, punishment or pain (Move Away From Connection).
3) Switching off / Strategic rest or downtime to gain strength, energy, sleep or resources (Switch Off Connection).
The 7 Emotions Orientation
Emotions are reactions of orientation, adaptation and digestion in response to threats, opportunities and changes (danger, poison, loss, encounter, grief...). In what situation is your emotion normal and natural?
1) Love is a normal and natural emotion when there is privacy or authenticity (orientation in the fruitfulness of the link).
2) Anger is normal and natural when there is injustice or lack (orientation in the satisfaction of needs).
3) Disgust is normal and natural when there is saturation, toxicity or abuse (guidance in the prevention of poisoning).
4) Shame is normal and natural when there is inhumanity or abnormality (guidance in social integration).
5) The joy is normal and natural when there is share or success (orientation in self-realisation within a filial framework).
6) Fear is normal and natural when there is danger or unknown (risk management orientation).
7) Sadness is normal and natural when there is loss, separation or end (orientation in the subsidiary transition).
The Right Choice Experience
7 key questions to help you reflect on your interpretations or challenges:
1) Is it realistic to continue like this? / Principle of factual reality.
2) Is it right to continue like this? / Principle of sobriety for the body.
3) Is it right to continue like this? / Principle of integrity for the mind.
4) Is it right to continue like this? / Principle of dignity for the heart.
5) Is there any point in continuing this? / Principle of price to pay, interest and profit in Time (sense of history).
6) Is it fair to continue like this? / Principle of law and order in Space (sense of place).
7) Is it a shame to continue like this? / Principle of value and meaning in the Movement (meaning of action).
The Keys to Normal Emotion
Is an emotion normal and natural? Or is it an emotional bug?
1) Emotion is a reaction adapted to the situation / Normality in context.
2) The emotion has a normal intensity in the situation / Proportionality in context.
3) Emotion is a source of empathy in the situation / Understanding in context.
4) Emotion does not ruminate in the situation / Orientation in context.
5) Emotion is in the respect of the people in the situation / Integrity in context.
6) Emotion is a source of relaxation and satisfaction in the situation / Relief in context.
The 8 Emotional Bugs
The 8 emotional bugs, 8 parasitic or abnormal reactions:
1) Disproportionate emotion (abnormal intensity with "elastic" in memory).
2) Inappropriate emotion ("switch" or emotional error, substitution for lack of permission).
3) Accumulated emotion (self-closure, passivity and stamp collecting).
4) Irrational emotion (emotional control with rebound effect, panic or mania).
5) Contagious emotion (SpongeBob, emotion of others due to lack of boundaries or limits).
6) Transferred emotion (family secrets, hot potatoes, silence in the family system).
7) Projected emotion (desire or blame placed on others, role reversal, reversal of situation).
8) Stifled emotion (lack of emotion, wise appearance, logical coldness, slow seduction).
Misinterpretations
Interpretation errors, cognitive biases.
A / The absence of consciousness in the repression of emotions:
1) The absence of emotion, affective anaesthesia, sensory freezing (the cingulate).
2) The lack of response, Sick passivity, behavioural freezing (neurovegetative).
3) Lack of empathy, abuse of power, moral coldness (the islander).
B / Interpretation errors in the repression of emotions:
1) The mystification of pleasure (compulsion, addiction, seduction, obsession, illusion...).
2) Victimisation in pain (rumination, procrastination, depression, pity manipulation...).
3) Guilt in pain (criticism, denigration, harassment, humiliation, etc.).
The Dramatisation of Solutions
The stages of violence, the dramatisation of solutions, the powerlessness in the face of problems:
1) Denial of the problem (or pain).
2) Minimisation of the problem (or pain).
3) Stupid solutions to the problem (or pain).
4) Nervous restlessness around the problem (or pain).
5) Acting out in violence to get out of the problem (or pain) at all costs.
The Spiral of Beliefs
The spiral loop of negative beliefs :
1) Toxic beliefs due to misinterpretation of parasitic stressIn the case of a situation of failure or stifled pain (problems of self-esteem, confidence, lack of success or sharing, over-adaptation, etc.).
Example: "I am ashamed of myself, others don't like me, I am ugly.
2) Limiting behaviours due to emotional bugs (excessive fear, parasitic shame, abusive guilt, explosive anger, passive sadness...).
Example: "I isolate myself, I avoid intimate contact, I'm afraid of the gaze of others.
3) Predictable consequences due to the power of emotions and emotional illiteracy (intensity of bugs, social withdrawal, emotional isolation, emotional abandonment, relational sabotage...).
Example: "Other people don't come to me in the evening. I don't smile, I don't joke."
4) Self-reinforcing confirmation of the toxic belief with repetition pattern parasitic stress and failures (guilt, shame, humiliation, resignation, depression, despair, rage, hatred...).
Example: "The others don't like me, I'm not a good person. I've come full circle!
Toxic Rehearsals
Toxic repetition, ineffective solutions:
1) Misunderstandings (repetition of denial of realities, contempt, lies, illusions, passivity...).
2) Parasite feelings (repetition of emotional bugs, memory-reaction "Stress Disorder"...).
3) False beliefs (repetition of false interpretations, cognitive biases, toxic illusions...).
4) Toxic patterns (repetition of poisonous behaviour, power games, sabotage and failure, self-destruction...).
5) Repetition compulsion (repetition in addiction, consumption, abuse, disgust, saturation ...).
6) Life scenarios (repetition of over-adaptations, sacrifices, sickly loyalties, toxic pities, abusive gratitudes...).
7) Cognitive patterns (repetition of learning, experiences, emotional illiteracy...).
Learning about Emotions
Both innate and acquired learning of emotions:
1) Basic autopilot with a universal brain structure (3 movements by stress, 7 orientations by emotion).
2) Environmental and sensory stimulation for our bodies to make our own experience of pleasure or pain.
3) A socio-parental transmission by our authority figures to alert us to a threat or opportunity (verbal and non-verbal triggering).
4) Experiences in life to discern between healthy and toxic situations, between real threats and false opportunities.
5) Bugs in our interpretations, errors in our triggers emotional, false beliefs, memory-reaction disorder.
6) An improvement processThis is a time for questioning and new experiences (brain neuroplasticity, emotional literacy).
The 4 Levels of Consciousness
The 4 levels of consciousness:
1) Perceptual position 1 / The perception of needs for oneself.
2) P.P 2 / The perception of needs for the other.
3) P.P 3 / The perception of needs in the specific situation.
4) P.P 4 / The perception of universal needs on Earth.
The Vital Function of Emotions
The vital function of the 7 emotions (automatic steering of opportunities and threats):
1) Love / Optimising contact, exchange and reproduction.
2) Anger / Prevention of lack, imbalance or abuse of power.
3) Disgust / Prevention against poison, abuse or saturation.
4) Shame / Prevention against social exclusion, human desolation or inhumanity.
5) The joy / The optimisation of self-fulfilment, individual success and social sharing.
6) Fear / Prevention against risk, danger or the unknown.
7) Sadness / Optimising change, grief, loss and transition.
The 5 Levels of Trust
The 5 Levels of Trust:
1) Being able to feel good about yourself (inner serenity, basic physical safety, body experience, sports practice).
2) Be able to rely on your thinking skills (confidence in one's point of view, power of thought, intellectual experience)
3) Being able to rely on its know-how (the ability to cope, knowing how to get by, experience of the 'D' system).
4) Being able to rely on others (communication skills, interpersonal confidence, experience of groups and teams).
5) Being able to rely on Life (spiritual trust, a taste for Nature, a sense of the Environment, the hope of the Force in Star Wars).
N.B & Experts : Confidence is essentially 'knowing you can rely on' something or someone. In French, the word confiance is a catch-all word or a catch-all word. In English, the words 'confidence', 'wellness', 'trust', 'self-esteem', 'hope' and 'experience' cover the different levels of organisation of the French word 'confiance'.
The Recipe for Happiness
The Recipe for Happiness:
1) The right sense of fun (well-being, joy, love, attachment...).
2) A sense of action (movement, project, activity, work, commitment...).
3) A sense of value (place of things, sense of the sacred, talents, creativity...).
4) The right sense of time (courage to act, prudence, patience, childhood memory,...).
5) The common sense of power (role of parents, sense of authority, choice of truth, taste for justice...).
The Golden Transformation
The Transformation into Gold (E=MC2).
1) Listening of its energy.
2) Concentration of its energy.
3) Management of its energy.
4) Transmission of its energy.
5) Expansion of its energy.
N.B & Experts : "E=MC2! It's heavy, it goes fast!" Energy is mathematically related to mass and the speed of light. The weight of our pain and the light of our values to give poetic meaning to the process of emotional transformation in personal development. C.G. Jung enlightened us on this process by reminding us that emotion is the fire of transformation.
Fair Play from the Heart
Fair Play from the Heart in reciprocity, lucidity, courage and justice :
1) Fair play on the sexuality.
2) Fair play on money.
3) Fair play on the violence.
4) Fair play on the time.
5) Fair play on the living space.
6) Fair play on the role of each.
7) Fair play on the stress.
The Verbs of Giving - Receiving
The verbs of Giving & Receiving to fill your Affective Body Reservoir :
1) See - Feel - Wait - Judge (interpersonal recognition in perception and observations).
2) Accept - Refuse - Abstain (interpersonal recognition in differentiation and boundaries).
3) Receive - Give - Share (interpersonal recognition in transactions and exchanges).
4) Listen - Ask - Speak (interpersonal recognition in communication and speech).
5) Learn - Reflect - Dare - Act (interpersonal recognition in experience and culture).
Toxic Patterns
The messages of over-adaptation to stress in childhood (the "Drivers" of the "Patterns"):
1) Be strongDon't say anything!
2) Pleasebe nice!
3) Be perfectBe good!
4) Keep it cleanBe pure!
5) Make an effortDon't think about yourself!
6) Hurry upDon't take the time!
7) Be in disgustI don't give a shit anymore!
Violence or the Failure of Satisfaction
The 4 feelings of violence or failure of happiness :
1) The feeling of powerlessness / We don't know what to do!
2) The feeling of incomprehension / We don't understand anything anymore!
3) The feeling of deadlock / We don't know how to get out of it anymore!
4) The feeling of destructive legitimacy / Nothing more to do, we enjoy it, we let go in this great "Stress Disorder"!
Power Games & Dramatic Triangle
Toxic power plays with stress in our relationships, linked to our helplessness in the face of emotional pain:
1) The dominance of the Persecutor (abuse of power and direct control of people through pain, force, violence, over-stress, contempt, manipulation...).
2) The mystification of the Saviour (abuse of power and indirect control of people through pleasure, seduction, adoration, mothering, illusion, mystification...).
3) Victimisation of the Victim (abuse of power and indirect control of people through pity, sacrifice, guilt, shame, care, humiliation...).
N.B & Experts : Dr. Stephen KARPMAN's Dramatic Triangle is a bad power play between Persecutor, Saviour and Victim. It is a psychological game of abuse of power in relationships and powerlessness in dealing responsibly with the realities of stress.
The 3 Actors of the Dramatic Triangle
Dr. Stephen KARPMAN's Dramatic Triangle Actors (process of relational dramatization with denial of the reality of the facts):
1) The Persecutor has the mask of evil using pain of his history. He has learned to do (some) bad things to get out of it (strategy of over-adaptation by attacking people and disregarding his own history; FIGHT in English).
2) The Saviour has the mask of goodness in avoiding pain of his history. He has learned to do (some) good to get by (strategy of over-adaptation by helping people and disregarding his own history; FLY in English).
3) The Victim has the mask of the Poor while brooding over the pain of his history. He has learned to do (some) pain to get out of it (strategy of over-adaptation by pitying people and disregarding his own history; FREEZE in English).
N.B & Experts : The 3 social masks Persecutor - Rescuer - Victim of Dr Stephen KARPMAN's Triangle correspond to the 3 stress strategies Attack - Flight - Freeze in their dysfunctional form. It is an irresponsible, passive and abusive relational game with pain, pleasure and action to mask the realities of stress in our own history.
The 5 Issues of the Dramatic Triangle
The Issues of the Dramatic Triangle. The "5 Rs" to understand what we are playing with in our poisonous relationships:
1) The RThe facts of the matter are clear.
2) The RThe responsibility of individuals.
3) The Rs role.
4) The Rs response to the problem.
5) The Rs response to traumatic memory.
N.B & Experts : Dr. Stephen KARPMAN's Dramatic Triangle is a bad power play between Persecutor, Saviour and Victim. It is a game of abuse of power in relationships, powerlessness in meeting needs and contempt in dealing with stress.
Animal, Child, Adult and Parent Inner
The levels of organisation of the brain (in a simplified way):
1) The Inner Animal / The sense of action and the body's sensations / "Wake up the Tiger!
2) The Inner Child / The sense of need and emotions of the heart / "Listen to the Child!
3) The Inner Adult / The sense of reality and responsibility of reason / "Make the Adult work!
4) The Inner Parent / The meaning of solutions and values of consciousness / "Educate the Parent!
N.B & Experts : The neurovegetative, reptilian, limbic, anterior, frontal and insular cortexes for the experts!
Electrical Power & Descartes Errors
Past mistakes around Life Energy and Power.
1) The Logical Power of Reason / The Error of Descartes.
2) The erotic power of the impulse / Freud's mistake.
3) The philosophical power of power / Nietzsche's mistake.
4) The political power of disgust / Hitler's mistake.
5) The mystical power of the universe and of love / The error of Jung & Reich.
N.B & Experts : It is in fact a story of electrochemical stimulation to be able to acquire the experience of feeling good, thinking good, acting good, remembering good in order to be able to "feel good about oneself" within the framework of the organisation of the satisfaction of one's needs and the maintenance of one's life structure (Dr Henri LABORIT). At the same time, this story of stimulation is also called the nervous tension of stress, and it is quickly a sensitive subject of tension, power and dominance in the groups to which we belong, if we start to connect the threads of memory around the issues of stress (The Stress of Life, Dr Hans SELYE).
The Big Pieces of the Puzzle
The pieces of the puzzle of a scientifically binary electrochemical system... (Light / No Light; Contact / No Contact; Truth / No Truth):
1) 1 basic nervous energy charge in tension / relaxation mode of the body to be able to act (21 g of nervous tension, electrochemical Flow, neurovegetative Chi?).
2) 2 options for recharging the battery energy, or feed the Body Affective Reservoir (Switch On / Switch Off, Awake Active / Resting Sleeping, Contact On / Off Contact ?).
3) 3 basic options for managing movements Reaction strategies (Move Towards Contact, Move Away From Contact, Switch Off Contact).
4) 7 basic guidelines for managing opportunities and threats (7 emotions to initially deal with threats of danger, poison, exclusion...or opportunities for reproduction, transition, sharing, success...).
5) 1 circuit Pleasure / Pain / Basic taste to be able to assess the positive and healthy value of the experience (the reward, pain and common sense circuits to be able to sense how positive, healthy and fruitful the experience is).
6) 1 interpretive tour The associative cortex is the basic cortex for sorting, discerning, interpreting, evaluating and improving experience (the associative cortex in connection with both empathic emotional knowledge and general humanistic culture).
7) 1 memorial circuit The hippocampus has a key role to play both in the memory of our feelings and in the memory of our life experiences.
N.B & Experts : For the experts, mainly in the brain, the amygdala, the hippocampus, the cingulate cortex, the insular cortex, the C.O.F., the neurovegetative, the reptilian and limbic levels of organisation. The work of George Boole, Dr Duncan MacDougall, Dr Fritz Perls, Dr Joseph Ledoux, Dr Antonio Damasio, Dr Gerhard Roth, Dr Erik Kandel and Dr Henri Laborit. Not forgetting Jimi Hendrix's "Are You Experienced?
The Dimensions of the Heart
The Dimensions of the Heart:
1) The meaning of reality of the facts.
2) The meaning of the story personal.
3) The meaning of sobriety body.
4) The meaning of integrity mental.
5) The meaning of dignity human.
The 5 Steps to Emotional Digestion
The 5 stages of the emotional digestion of pain:
1) The awareness of pain (the click of the end of denial).
2) Anger healthy to say no to pain, to free oneself from suffering.
3) Fear of change, fear of the future.
4) Sadness to get rid of the pain, to be able to say "Yes, it's over!
5) Acceptance that the welcome of renewal is over.
N.B & Experts : Based in part on the "5 Stages of Grief" for experts (Dr. Kübler-Ross). The main obstacles to emotional digestion are complete denial, paralysing guilt, toxic shame, freezing terror, manipulative pity, abusive seduction and destructive rage (mad rage or "seum", the angry venom of disgust in Arabic).
Emotional Intelligence
The development of emotional intelligence (in the management of our stress, our needs, our emotions and our relationships):
1) Sensory anaesthesia.
2) Sensory perception.
3) Emotional interference.
4) Individual management.
5) Emotional interaction.
The Transmission of the Word
The Transmission of the Word:
1) Genuine commitment to humanist values.
2) Genuine commitment to our children.
3) Real change for our families.
4) Genuine recognition of stress.
5) The true acceptance of memory.
The 5 Languages of Forgiveness
The 5 Languages of Forgiveness:
1) Really acknowledge the fault.
2) Expressing real regret.
3) Really want to change.
4) Really propose a repair.
5) Really ask for forgiveness.
The Commandments of the Law of Silence
The Commandments of the Law of Silence :
1) Denial of pain, one is asked to keep quiet.
2) The pie in the sky, we are asked to have a great childhood.
3) The disregard of memory, one is asked to forget.
4) The prohibition of anger, we are asked to forgive.
5) Emotional illiteracy, we are asked to remain powerless with our emotions.
6) The social mask, we are asked to be good, kind, beautiful and smiling.
7) Toxic guilt, we are asked to believe "It's my fault!
8) The good logical excuse, we are asked to believe "It's for your own good".
9) The good economic excuse, we are asked to believe "It's all about money".
10) Shame if you talk about it, you are asked to hide.
11) Mercy and kindness of heart, one is asked to sacrifice.
12) Punishment if you talk about it, you are asked to have the double punishment.
13) Passive magical thinking, we are asked to believe "If I don't say anything, there's nothing left, everything is fine!
14) Toxic loyalty, one is asked to remain loyal to sick, passive and abusive people.
15) Brainwashing, we are asked to believe in Snow White and Father Christmas.
16) The power of taboos, we are asked to avoid the roots of evil, My Child!
The Consents of the Word
The 4 Consents of the Man of the Word:
1) The pain of his past.
2) The reality of its present.
3) The energy of its future.
4) The truth of its history.
The 8 Locks of the Body
The pain points where stress tensions freeze:
1) Tension / pain in the eyes.
2) Tension / pain in the jaws.
3) Tension / pain in the neck.
4) Tension / pain in chest - shoulders.
5) Tension / pain in the diaphragm.
6) Tension / pain in stomach - digestive system.
7) Tension / pain in pelvis - anus - sex.
8) Tension / pain in legs - knees - feet
The Dragons of Emotion
Emotional dragons in their mismanagement (emotional bugs, parasitic pain):
1) Compulsion abuse / addiction / obsession.
2) Abuse of seduction / illusion / vanity / manipulation.
3) Abuse of agitation / rumination / impulse / drive.
4) Abuse of victimisation / rumination / procrastination / humiliation.
5) Abuse of violence / acting out / destructive rage.
6) Shame abuse / contempt / lies / rejection / pride.
N.B & Experts : Stress with Memory Reaction Disorder / Lack, shock, pain, abuse, saturation, rejection, disgust, hatred, rage...(Stress Disorder, P.T.S.D).
The 7 Dimensions of Abuse
The 7 dimensions of abuse:
1) Abuse of power.
2) Breach of trust.
3) Abuse of pride.
4) Abuse of passivity.
5) Overfilling.
6) Sexual abuse.
7) Abuse of reason.
Figures that Speak
The official figures that speak for themselves (WHO, UNICEF, etc.):
1) 1 in 5 people for birth stress.
2) 2 out of 3 people for the baby's emotional stress.
3) 2 out of 3 people for child abuse and shock.
4) 1 in 4 people for sexual abuse.
5) 1 in 5 people for emotional abandonment by parents.
6) 8 out of 10 people for over-adaptation patterns.
7) 9 out of 10 people for emotional illiteracy.
The Happiness Experience Circuits
The Circuits of Happiness Experience:
1) The memory circuit and experience.
2) The pleasure circuit and reward.
3) The pain circuit and punishment.
4) The good taste circuit and orientation.
5) The reaction circuit and movement.
6) The emotion circuit and attachment.
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The Happiness Experience Matrix
The Happiness Experience Matrix and the 3 Movements of Stress (Move Towards, Move Away, Switch Off). A new psychology of stress awareness in the memory-reaction development of the individual.
1) Power to Feel Right / Honeymoon & Fusion Connection Movement Experience (natural growth of the Feeling in pleasure, beginning of the couple, integration in the company, acceptance in the team...).
2) Power to Think Right / Differentiation Movement Experience with Clash & Conflict (natural growth of Thinking in disagreement, assertion of opinions, preference of tastes, healthy questioning...).
3) Power to Do Right / Experience the Resourcing Movement with Step Back & Practice (natural growth of Acting in action / relaxation, resting, recharging batteries and data, learning know-how...)
4) Power to Remember Right / Experience of the Integration Movement with Echanges & Parole (natural growth of the Capacity to Remember in communication, in social exchanges, in communication skills...).