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The dictionary of ailments

At the heart of the dissociation of people, the denial of pain and the repression of emotions, the disorders of stress with toxic rumination, abusive compulsion and sick procrastination. Words, doors and keys to Well-Being and Unwell-Being in our modern tribes!

Welcome to our Dictionary of Evils silent and talking word games.

Between the need for "Happy Power" in our families and the dysfunctions mirrored by the "Stress Disorder" in our societies, our Dictionary of Evils will help you to manage your reactions, your emotions, your relationships and your decisions. It will enlighten you below from A to Z in the memory-reaction circuit of your own history, helping you to return to the right direction of attachment, to the right order of discernment, to the right taste of movement and to the right awareness of the value of memory.

Our Dictionary will remind you of the key role of memory in learning, life experience, awareness of feelings and decision making. It will give you insight into the perception of our 5 senses, the orientation of our 7 emotions and the interpretation of our 3 stress reactions. Together with our Universal Map of the 7 Emotions, our Pain Dictionary will help you emotionally to distinguish between universal stress and parasitic reaction, between normal emotion and maladaptive reaction, between natural feeling and dysfunctional reaction.

Psychosocially, with courage and without language, our Dictionary of Evils will dare to name the pain of lack, the shock of violence, the humiliation of abuse, the betrayal of trust, the depression of neglect and the abandonment of demands in our tribes. It will aim to give psychosocial resources to individuals and families who are struggling with stress, emotions or relationships. It will be a useful lexicon to accompany those who have embarked on our 7 Step Programme. It will complement our videos in the area of emotional intelligence, including our videos numbered 1 to 16 with the basics of emotional literacy.

Neuroscientifically, our Pain Dictionary will have in mind to help you mainly to grasp the key problem of "Stress Disorder", with its 4 poisonous dimensions of "Dissociative Disorder", "False Belief", "Compulsive Behavior" and "Denial", i.e. in French :

► Stress Disorder Stress disorders with 4 main dysfunctions: mind-body dissociation (sensory anaesthesia, emotional disconnection, freezing of feelings); false belief (cognitive bias, misinterpretation, mental rumination, abusive guilt, delusion, perverse inversion); behavioural compulsion (repetitive urges, abusive addictions or toxic dependencies to products, people or various activities with loss of freedom to abstain...); denial (repression of pain, traumatic amnesia, disregard for the past, denial of the psychological importance of childhood). A state of parasitic tension or toxic stress caused by the impact and pain of the lacks, shocks, neglect and abuse in one's history. Impact of the freezing of stress, repression of emotions, inhibition of action and denial of traumatic memory (Dr Henri LABORIT, Dr Susan FORWARD, Dr Murielle SALMONA). Memory-reaction disorder caused by parasitic stress frozen in us by the past. Psycho-corporal disorder with painful freezing of the tensions of experienced environmental stress. Pain or tension stored in our bodies, emotions and relationships. Parasitic stress disorder linked to the so-called traumatic memory of lacks, shocks, neglect and abuse suffered due to emotional illiteracy. Environmental stress with ecological destructiveness and moral toxicity in our societies because of our inner emotional poverty and our outer psychosocial imbalance in the socio-economic balance of responsible satisfaction of our needs, emotions and relationships. See the 7 wounds of the heart on the Universal Map of the 7 Emotions.

► Dissociative Disorder: Dissociation of body and mind to protect oneself from pain (anaesthesia, disconnection, insensitivity, inner emptiness, chaotic perception, unpleasant confusion...). Abnormal or unpleasant disturbance of the mind-body contact with freezing of sensations, freezing of tensions, avoidance of emotions, escape into illusions, fixation on obsessions, rumination in the mind, freezing of feelings or loss of traumatic memory. Psycho-corporal cut, horizontal cleavage in the perception of sensations and vertical cleavage in the integration of feelings. Cleavage of the mind-body structure, denial of emotional pain, split between the emotional and rational brains. Disorder leading to problems in perception of sensations, disconnection from emotions, awareness of feelings or denial of past pain. Mind-body disorder in the perception of sensations and facts, in the orientation of emotions and decisions, in the understanding of situations and relationships, in the interpretation of feelings and personal history. Dissociative disorder cognitively associated with toxic patterns, false limiting beliefs, KARPMAN's Dramatic Triangle, multiple personality disorders and memory-reaction disorders.

► False Belief: False interpretation linked to the 8 emotional bugs. False beliefs related to denial of emotional pain or misinterpretation of the stress of shocks, lacks, abuse or neglect in one's history. Cognitive bias with emotional dysfunction, mental rumination and behavioural procrastination in abusive guilt, toxic shame, parasitic fear or sick inhibition. Dysfunctional cognitive-behavioural pattern with critical thinking, emotional rumination (rage, despair, shame, guilt, anxiety, depression...) or mental freezing (feeling empty-headed, mental confusion, cognitive daze, emotional saturation, thought block...).

► Compulsive Behavior: Behavioural compulsion with flight to pleasure or complacency in pain. Reactionary vicious circle, toxic pattern with body impulse or mental rumination. Looped repetitions of maladaptive behaviours, abnormal reactions or toxic dysfunctions. Repeated pattern of aggressive impulses, sickly procrastination, toxic ruminations, abusive addictions, sexual urges. Compulsive disorder in lack or abuse, in avoidance or dependence, with addiction in sensations, rumination in emotions, procrastination in decisions, agitation in reactions and obsession in feelings. Destructive pattern related to toxic false beliefs and painful experiences (in lack, neglect, shock or abuse).

► Denial: Denial of the realities and wounds of the past, denial of the emotional illiteracy in our families, traumatic amnesia of pain, disregard for the statistical realities and psychosocial consequences of stress in our families, lack of psychohistorical awareness. Repression of emotions, silence around emotional pain, lies about emotional deprivation and taboos around sexual abuse (38% of women according to the WHO, 20% of the population according to the EU).

The Happiness Experience Matrix integrates this new knowledge on Stress Disorder and on the neuroscientific management of stress, emotions and needs. In terms of fundamental research, it allows us to grasp our normal functioning pattern and these new keys to understanding our psychosocial dysfunctions.

With deliberately simpler, easier or different words, our Dictionary of Evils will deepen for you below this first lighting on the impact of the freezing of the tensions of the stress and the pain in our Bodies, our Hearts and our Spirits.

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Addiction : Loss of freedom to abstain (Dr Pierre FOUQUET). Sickly abusive, excessive, compulsive and passive behaviour (12-step programmes: A.A; N.A; D.A.S.A; S.I.A...). Flight into a source of pleasure to avoid the pain of discomfort (stress reaction in "Fly" mode). Behaviour to silence the pain of the body, stop the rumination of the mind or forget the reality of environmental stress in the environment. Excessive addictive pleasure. Progressive loss of sense of reality and demands, lack of emotional awareness, complacency, irresponsible passivity. Abuse of a product, excess in consumption, dependence on a person, obsession with a thing, compulsive repetition of a practice. Permutable examples: greed in consumption; filling in lack; obsession in work; addiction in love; addiction in drugs; alcoholism with alcoholic drinks. Negative memory-reaction scheme to fill one's Affective Body Reservoir (Dr Peter LEVINE; Dr Henri LABORIT). Compulsive repetition to soothe lack, emptiness, stress or inner pain. Sick repetition, toxic habit and destructive conditioning. Dangerousness, risk and seriousness vary according to products, drugs, rituals, habits or practices (chemical toxicity, physical withdrawal, criminal risk depending on the country, etc.). Risk of losing one's freedom of choice, mental integrity and human dignity with endangerment depending on the level of addiction, compulsion, dependence or obsession (Dr Susan FORWARD).

Alcoholism : Gradually abusive, 'habitual', dangerous or sickly consumption of alcohol, ethanol being the psychoactive substance present in all alcoholic drinks. Misuse, toxic habit, slippery slope ritual, increasing consumption and progressive addiction to ethanol in reality. Structural physico-chemical dependence on alcohol technically linked to the progressive transformation of the brain's dopamine circuits into a kind of "opium factory" (THP is the name of this opiate produced by the brain after a certain period of excessive ethanol consumption). Progressive disruption of the dopamine circuits, with internal production of THP by the brain, from the ethanol drunk to fuel this toxic machinery. Alcoholism is technically present when there is a "loss of freedom to abstain" (Dr. Pierre Fouquet, see Addiction), i.e. when the person is literally dependent on the opiate produced by the progressive deterioration of his or her own brain, at the level of the dopamine circuits. The alcoholic is literally a slave to alcohol when he or she needs ethanol to regularly refuel his or her own brain's production of an opiate (the THP). A problem of increasing consumption over time that is out of control, often in denial, "good bar jokes", minimisation or easy excuses. Bad habit developed to organise one's well-being or pleasure; to manage stress or discomfort; to drown one's sorrow or pain. Irresponsible and abusive social habit to "tear up" stress (popular shame with alcohol with "English drinking"); passive and prideful behaviour to "mask" stress (chic lie with alcohol with "French drinking"). Denial of the realities of stress, irresponsible attitude in satisfying needs, lack of awareness of emotional pain, disregard for others or one's own childhood wounds. With alcohol, we are literally told to close our eyes, plug our nose and ears, forget, shut up and drown our sorrows. Healthy lifestyle (open up, breathe, move well, eat well, put your life in order...); essential medical follow-up (physical withdrawal, hidden depression and anxiety...); necessary psychotherapy (toxic patterns and sabotage, emotional digestion); effective discussion group (12-step programme of the A.A, N.A, S.I.A, D.A.S.A...). Learning to put back in the right place: his denial of realities, his parasitic sadness, his destructive disgust ("destructive rage"), his toxic guilt, his emotional shame, his emotional isolation, drowned in drink. Learn to refuel in a healthy and joyful way, by learning ecologically for oneself to better recharge one's batteries, to better fill one's Affective Body Reservoir ("Fill your cup"; Oprah WINFREY; Dr Vincent LAUPIES).

Love :  Universal emotion whose vital function is to optimise contact and manage filiation in the ties that bind us. Emotion linked to the quality of contact, filiation and transmission in our families. Normal and natural reaction linked to the quality of contact and relationship when there is privacy, authenticity and complicity. Emotion of bonding, connection and fusion linked to the reproduction of the species on the biological level and the transmission of values on the moral level.

A "catch-all" emotion often manipulated between quality contact in truth and false contact in lies. Emotion often used to take advantage of our lack of love (see Dr Gary Chapman's 5 Love Languages: support, gestures of tenderness, positive words, moments of sharing and quality, gifts) and to hide the statistical extent of sexual abuse in our societies (denial of the problems of compulsion and drive linked to Stress Disorder / PTSD; incest 10 % in France according to the IPSOS 2020 study; sexual abuse 38% for women worldwide according to the WHO, etc...) 

Normal and natural reaction of openness of the person in connection with vital needs in the attachment and in connection with the survival of the species at several levels of organisation according to the ages of life (attachment of babies, filiation of children, reproduction of adults, transmission of parents ....). Normal reaction when there is a quality of contact and sharing in the relationship. A psycho-corporal signal of an opportunity or an opening towards quality contact. Natural vital function at several levels of organisation in the links that unite us: optimisation of relational contact; reproduction of the species; psychoaffective social openness; social filiation and natural attachment. On the map with medical imagery of emotions (2013), note the small difference in light between happiness and love at the level of the appetites of the stomach. Beware of the word "catch-all" or "passion" emotion where it is important to know how to sort, discern and put things in orderIn this respect, we will learn to distinguish between the pleasure of the body (sexuality, beauty, desire, orgasm, etc.), the attachment of the heart (sharing, joy, commitment, family, etc.) and the filiation of the spirit (loyalty, support, transmission, value, etc.). In this respect, we will learn to distinguish between the reproduction of the species, the game of seduction, the quality of the orgasm, the life of a couple, the parent-child relationship and the value of the family.

Anxiety / Anxiety : Fear of coping, worry about the future. Ruminating on a parasitic fear with: disproportionate stress about the future; fear of having done wrong in the past; breathing oppression to get it right. Need to calm the amygdala - hippocampus circuit with: breathing techniques; concentration; cardiac coherence; M.B.S.R. meditation; victimology
E.M.D.R (Dr Christophe ANDRE, Dr Murielle SALMONA, Dr Joseph LEDOUX). Fear of getting out of it frequently intermingled with anxiety-provoking ruminations of the past: a mixture of toxic interpretation, guilt, criticism, regrets, obsessions, efforts, solutions or fear in addition. Excessive need to control, master, achieve or be able to see the future. Tendency to ruminate, to want to re-do or to dwell on the past. Need to integrate more healthily for oneself the Place of things, the Value of things, the Movement of things and the Time of things. Need for serenity in one's relationship to time, to life, to oneself, to others in one's history. Stressful relationship with time; lack of confidence with life; need to breathe; pressure with oneself; stress with others or the world. Oppressive, poisonous, abusive and excessive stress in order to control, do better, react better or get out of it. Anxiety is lighter than anguish. Panic is an anxiety attack. Panic attack is a violent total loss of means in the face of fear. Panic is related to fear of dying (E.S.P.T) and birth stress (23% of emergency caesarean births). Panic is linked memorably by the body to brain anoxia (memory imprint of a lack of oxygen), to the fear of not being able to get out of it, which triggers like respiratory distress or oppressive agitations (Dr Arthur JANOV). In addition to this, the traumatic memory of the shocks, lacks and abuses experienced in one's own history can awaken the parasitic feeling of panic "of not being able to get out" of one's own past. The person becomes anxious, breathes badly, and has the impression that he or she will not be able to get rid of the past, whereas it is the traumatic memory that is dysfunctional due to a reactionary disorder (Stress Disorder).

Anxiety can manifest itself in physically oppressive attacks. It is important to see your doctor to avoid a misdiagnosis (real heart problem, real pain linked to an illness, illness in the lungs, stomach problem, etc.).

"Inner Animal - Inner Child - Inner Adult - Inner Parent" - The Ego States : Ready to awaken your Inner Animal, your Inner Child, your Inner Adult and your Inner Parent? Ready to strengthen your Inner Responsible Adult so you can accept the joy of your Inner Free Child? Ready to listen to the kindness of your Inner Nurturing Parent to better care for yourself? Ready to silence that Inner Critical Parent who is poisoning your life
? Called the Ego States in Transactional Analysis (Dr Eric BERNE), these internal functions correspond to a simplified way of representing the mental structure of our mind-body functioning and our memory-reaction organisation. They correspond in order "roughly" respectively to

- the Inner Animal: the intelligence of the body and the vital energy (the Place of the Body; the Inner Animal Force);
- The Inner Child: the intelligence of the inner needs and emotions of the heart (the Place of the Heart; the Common Sense of the EQ).
- The Inner Adult: the intelligence of external reality and logical solutions (the Place of the Real; the Adaptation and Good Order of the I.Q.).
- The Inner Parent: the intelligence of common sense and responsible solutions (the Right Place; Taste and Sense of Values).

At the time of the vertical division of the brain according to MacLean into 3 levels, the ego states were sometimes classified with the following typology: the reptilian body brain "Animal"; the limbic emotional brain "Child"; the anterior neocortex of adaptation "Adult"; the frontal insular cortex of good sense and good taste of solutions "Parent".
This analysis grid is no longer neuroscientifically operative at a time when the neurovegetative circuit of stress has been divided up via the amygdala (the stress reaction) - the hippocampus (the memory of feelings) - the cingulate cortex (affective awareness) - the insular cortex (moral awareness), even though it still provides an enlightening functional reading of our learning patterns through the sensorimotor memory-reaction experience

The Inner Child is a known concept for memory and emotions. It is the symbol of the heart in a culture suffering from emotional illiteracy, repression of emotions and inhibition of action (Dr Henri LABORIT; My Uncle from America). The Inner Adult represents rather the principle of reality and responsibility.

The Inner Parent is known in the books as the Critical or Toxic Parent. It is the negatively internalised Parent via false toxic beliefs, destructive patterns and denial of traumatic memory (Dr Susan FORWARD, Dr Murielle SALMONA, Alice MILLER).

Positive Inner Parenting represents the solutions and ways in which we can learn to be positively protective, nurturing, normative and courageous with ourselves, our children and others. Example of a classic Toxic Parent in 1970s France: "Le martinet, c'est pour ton bien!
The Happiness Experience Matrix corresponds to our basic pattern of functioning. It can be translated into ego states by the following slogans in Transactional Analysis:
1. Awaken the Tiger (gain vitality and energy).

2. Strengthen the Adult (acquire a sense of reality and responsibility).

3. Having to do with the Parent (acquiring demands and benevolence).

4. Hearing the Child (gaining awareness of feelings and history).

Attachment - Attachment Stress - Fear of Abandonment : Oxytocin deficiency in infants due to lack of warm contact. Psychocorporal stress of early separation or brutal distancing, with deficiencies in the infant scientifically recognised by the WHO (Dr J. BOWLBY; Dr R. SPITZ). Stress of the baby who is not taken enough in the arms. Stress of the infant who is not breastfed enough. Stress linked scientifically to the technical lack of oxytocin. Lack of warmth of gentle presence for the baby, lack of psycho-corporal contact and lack of beneficial breastfeeding for the infant. Stress of immediate "separate bedding", "plastic bottle" and "big cold bed alone" for the infant (Old School Method or Black Pedagogy of the 19th century; Alice MILLER; Dr Yvane WIART). The WHO now scientifically recommends human warmth, natural tenderness, normal gentleness and universal breastfeeding rich in oxytocin to prevent future lacks, addictions and compulsions. Attachment stress also results in relational instability in adult relationships, with fear of abandonment, emotional dependence and insecure attachment as the main known symptoms.

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Bordeline : An old-fashioned term from the 1990s in France which meant borderline state with reactionary or relational instability. Term that was fashionable in France in the last century to refer to "Stress Disorder" (memory-reaction dysfunction linked to the impact of stress).

The "borderline" was defined in the Prozac era by excessive impulsiveness, restless relationships, abusive compulsion, toxic dramatisation or passive procrastination. "Bipolars" have since replaced "borderlines" in their "yo-yo" of reactions and emotions. "Narcissists" have since replaced "borderlines" in their "hot and cold" abuse and relationships. The borderlines have all but disappeared in favour of the drama queens, the burn-outs and the manic-depressives in the early 21st century.

The "borderline" is technically a problem of attachment, of limits, of boundaries, of serenity and stability in the ties that bind us. Lack of sobriety of the Body, integrity of the Spirit and dignity of the Heart. Agitation, dramatisation, compulsion and disproportionate reactions.

In the early days of "techno music", the bordeline was known for its impulsive "speed" stress

"He has a "borderline" state and a tiring energy in relationships, with his "no-limit" between storms and despair.

Borderline? Another story of "Stress Disorder" and body dysfunction with other words? Again the same story of stress mismanagement? More anger in our needs and sadness in our relationships, as part of the psychosocial management of our pleasures and pains?

We leave you to ponder this vast question of the choice of words in our ailments. Just to take the time to understand the problem around the "Stress Disorder" rather than to stick labels of psychopathology too quickly.

Bulimia - T.C.A: Eating stress with repeated overeating, obsessive eating and compulsive filling. Eating Disorder (ED) of varying severity, ranging from frequent binge eating to binge eating and vomiting. Filling to the point of disgust, greed for food, compulsive eating. Disturbance of satiety and of the correct dosage of appetite. Loss of good sense of filling linked to abuse, saturation and disgust. Disorder scientifically linked to a disturbance of the insular cortex and the intestinal microbiota. Problem of correct dosage, natural saturation and normal functioning of disgust. Very strong statistical correlation with impact of disgust, saturation, toxicity, abuse and humiliation. Statistically proven link with sexual abuse up to 75% in terms of statistical or scientific probability (social surveys). Caution scientific caution necessary as technical difficulty due to denial in traumatic memory to discern impact of disgust, between toxic saturation and toxic relationships. It is important to understand environmental stress, the insular cortex, the notion of toxic abuse and the emotion of disgust in order to decode the psychosocial systemic in terms of saturation at the level of the emotional brain (Dr. G. ROTH; Dr. L. NUMMENMAA; INSERM Rouen; A.I.V.I; Dr. Gisela PERREN-KLINGER)

Burn-out : Stress of exhaustion. Empty "body batteries", siphoned "emotional reservoir". Denial of realities, over responsibility, over stress. Problem of environmental stress and maladaptive over-adaptation. Politically correct term to avoid saying depression (because of lack) or victim (because of abuse). Poor management of stress, emotions and needs in our relationships. Poor management of resources and capacities, realities and responsibilities. Impact of the memory-reaction conditioning of the cognitive patterns "try hard", "enjoy", "be perfect", "hurry" and "be strong". Impact of inhibition of action, repression of emotions and power games in our relationships. Pattern of relational over-adaptation that exhausts. Submission, effort that tires, excessive kindness or abuse of literally toxic people.

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Anger : Universal emotion whose vital function is the management of needs and respect for people in the ties that bind us. Normal and natural emotion that orients us in terms of threat/risk when there is lack and injustice in the satisfaction of our needs and relationships. Universal emotion in the autopilot of our Feeling Machine in relation to the natural affirmation of needs, the normal protection of people and healthy moral indignation. Important emotion for managing the Give & Take in our relationships with fairness and reciprocity in awareness of things. Key emotion for "waking the tiger" (Peter Levine) and opening our eyes with courage to the lack of need, the abuse in our relationships and the abandonment in our hearts. Abusive and toxic guilt is critical anger turned against oneself because of the prohibition of anger and the repression of emotions. Angry rage is an anger in the helplessness of passive-aggressive violence that signals a lack of resources, capacities and connections to solve things positively together in a constructive, serene and healthy way. More information on the 7 universal, normal and natural emotions in Having, Being and Loving - The New Wave Within.

Confidence : A sense of being able to rely on oneself and others. The ability to feel good about oneself and one's interactions, at many levels of organisation, acquired through experience. Positive belief in one's own abilities, self-esteem, the support of others and the loyalty of one's own. A lasting sense of serenity in one's connection to oneself and stability in one's connection to others.
4 forms of trust directly linked to the 4 powers of the Happiness Experience Matrix. In the order of the stages of child development:
- the ability to feel good about one's body or inner security ("feel good!")

- the ability to think for oneself or to be assertive ("In your right mind!")

- the ability to act autonomously or know-how ("Feel good about your body to get out of it! Well in your muscles to get moving!)

- ability to interact or relational confidence ("Well in your heart because others are there if you need them!").

D

Disgust : Universal emotion with the vital function of managing toxicity and preventing abuse. Universal emotion that protects us from toxic things, from saturation and disgust in the right mix of things. Normal and natural emotion that orients us in terms of threat/risk when there is poison, abuse and unhealthy intrusion in the satisfaction of our needs and relationships. Emotion that helps to protect us from poisoning, saturation or excess through good sense, good taste and a good appetite for things. Emotion that naturally leads away from toxic things and normally directs towards healthy things. Emotion that can be disturbed by saturation and the impact of abuse. Emotion linked to the insular cortex and gut microbiota in compulsive disorders with toxic patterns (abuse, addiction, rumination, disturbance of good taste in things and loss of common sense; Dr Gerhard Roth, Dr Antonio Damasio). See "seum". 

Denial : The art of disconnecting from reality. Loss of contact with reality. Defence, protection or concealment mechanism to avoid the reality of facts, more or less consciously. Disregard, rejection, refusal, contempt or delusion with regard to observable things. Self-arrangement or self-mystification, more or less voluntary. Closure or blockage of perception in the face of pain. Powerlessness or lack of control over reality. Lack of capacity to bear the truth. Lack of resources to solve problems. Loss of common sense or the right order of things in order to escape pain (at all costs) or to be able to survive (in a certain way). Collective lie to maintain the psychosocial system or personal defence to preserve the life structure. Various levels of misunderstanding or degrees of denial: lack of perception of the facts; difficulty in interpreting the facts correctly; inability to react to the facts or to solve the problems (see definition of violence).

Emotional and sexual dependence : Lack in the heart and abuse in the belly. Psycho-affective dysfunction. Memory-reaction disorder in love and sexuality. "Stress disorder in love in compulsion, obsession, addiction, or drive. Confusion in relation to attachment stress or toxic relationships. Realities of the importance of emotional deprivation and the impact of sexual abuse. Problem of denial to protect from pain: delusion; imagination; denial of childhood; pleasure seeking; escape from pain. Dysfunction with: love obsession; romantic delusion; emotional sacrifice; relational submission; over-adaptation to others; depersonalisation of self. Dysfunctional pattern of Dr. Stephen KARPMAN's Dramatic Triangle with emotional lack and sexual abuse. Relational imbalance in Saviour/Victim/Persecutor mode. Dynamics with Child / Parent; functioning Victim - Executioner; relationship in Manipulation - Sacrifice; game with Victimisation - Pity; scenario in Passivity - Violence. Emotional isolation or social anorexia to avoid the problems of KARPMAN's Dramatic Triangle.

Depression - Depressive disorder : A disorder of the vital functions diagnosed by a doctor in the course of a medical examination. The diagnosis is made following a medical investigation into disorders of sleep, mood, appetite, libido, motor activity, desire to live, vitality.

Several signs of depression: emotional rumination; mood disorders; bodily procrastination; abnormal fatigue; mental exhaustion (burn-out; suicidal thoughts; melancholy; apathy; ...). Significant depression in case of: suicidal thoughts; inability to sleep; resignation in the face of parasitic stress; lack of hope in one's relationships; letting go in pain; moral abandonment to cope. Psychomotor consequence of inhibition of action, repression of emotions and freezing of feelings (Dr Henri LABORIT; Dr Hans SELYE). See anguish - anxiety for associated symptoms.

Dysfunction in the normal development linked to the freezing of natural vitality. Sensory-motor freezing and memory-reaction saturation which are scientifically visible on the amygdala - hippocampus stress circuit (atrophy visible with medical imaging).

Depression is a kind of emotional non-expression of life energy, like a freezing of vitality and a depression of joy. This inner emotional "freezing" with disturbance of emotional digestion is technically visible on the medical scientific map of emotions by Dr Lauri NUMMENMAA (2013).

Depression is a medical reality that can be seen in the emotional brain through medical imaging: the hippocampus of emotional memory is reduced in size to 30% in the depressed person. The brain is an organ that can also be in pain, like the muscles or the lungs. The brain may need "electrochemical vitamins" (rich in neurotransmitters). We must dare to go to the doctor responsibly when we are depressed. Burn-out and suicide are social realities. As a reminder, more than 91% of French women declared that they had attempted suicide in their lives at the beginning of the millennium. According to the WHO, 900,000 people commit suicide each year, i.e. about 2 people per minute. This is also the scientific reality and the psychosocial consequences of stress.

Stress Reaction Disorder : Dysfunction in sensations, reactions and decision making due to parasitic lacks, traumatic shocks, toxic abuse and poisonous false beliefs. Loss of common sense, good order and good taste in managing needs, emotions and relationships. Repetition of toxic patterns, destructive sabotage, passive ruminations and abusive behaviour. Stress memory-reaction bug of a bodily, emotional or relational nature. Disruption of the body's stress circuit, reactions and memory. Impact of the freezing of stress, repression of emotions, inhibition of action and freezing of the traumatic memory. Concept of post-traumatic stress. See the 7 Wounds of the Heart in the Universal Map of the 7 Emotions.

Bereavement - Emotional digestion : Natural emotional process of moving on; normal emotional process of digesting a loss; universal memory process of integrating a story. Process of accepting things or digesting them over time. Process of putting things back in their place in our memory. Universal process in 5 stages ("5 stages of grief"; Dr E.KUBLER- ROSS):

1. Awareness of the pain of withdrawal

2. Healthy anger with refusal to suffer further

3. Normal fear of the future with change now

4. Natural sadness with a well-finished story

5. Acceptance of the new joy

Duration of emotional digestion : 18 months on average to be taken into account for painful events (divorce, job loss, death...). Normal process of emotional transformation of past events. Natural processing of the facts experienced in our history. Reactional processing of data in the Space - Time of our life. Universal process of acceptance and integration: accepting the reality of the facts; freeing ourselves from denial; accepting the pain of lack or loss; accepting to say no to pain and injustice; accepting to say yes to life and change.

Mind-body dissociation (perceptual disconnection, sensory cleavage, mental illusion, freezing emotional): Body state of desensitisation of the senses or disconnection of sensations linked to a state of parasitic stress. Freezing of the feeling, avoidance of contact or cleavage of the painful perception. Shock, shock, surprise or hallucination. Blocking, anaesthesia or freezing of sensations. Escape from the body, blocking of the senses of perception, development of mentalization, refuge in the imaginary, praise of rational logic. State of inner emptiness rather in a fixed state "stuck" or in an illusion "perched"; impression of inner confusion in movement as "lost" or "saturated".

Giving - Receiving : Universal need to exchange signs of recognition and share resources. Universal dynamic for filling our lives with the interactions and needs that bind us together. Universal need for our personal fulfilment in emotional gratification, joyful rewards and social sharing. Responsible, normal and natural human exchange to allow together a healthy, ecological and sustainable satisfaction of our needs within the humanistic management of our living environment. Natural exchange for beneficial fulfilment, positive development, warm success or joyful sharing. Healthy movement in equity and reciprocity.

E

Emotion (with 7 natural emotions: love, anger, disgust, shame, joy, sadness and fear): Universal structure of automatic steering and environmental orientation to opportunities and threats. Adaptation, orientation and repair reaction in relation to a vital function: fear for risk prevention; joy for self-realisation; love for filial reproduction; shame for social integration; anger for need management; sadness for relationship management.... Universal signal in the management of our opportunities and threats, with an automatic innate universal structure and a personal memorial organisation, acquired through individual experience in life. Normal orientation to better react in important or vital situations. Basic autopilot for vital functions. Natural programming to better manage key strategic reactions. For example, fear initially protects us. Fear automatically signals a threat, danger or risk to the unknown. Fear automatically alerts me and prepares me to react better. The same goes for disgust. Disgust automatically alerts us to a threat of poison, a danger of toxicity or a risk of abuse (excess, saturation). These automatic programmes are naturally enriched by experience and memory. Our life experiences will normally enrich the list of triggers for our emotions. It is up to us to sort out and select our emotional triggers without making false interpretations too quickly. It is said that we do not learn to trigger emotions. It is said that we learn what triggers emotions.

Be careful to distinguish between "functional emotion" and "parasitic emotional bug". Emotional education allows us to better manage the 7 normal emotions and to better control the 8 emotional bugs (disproportionate, inappropriate, irrational, accumulated, reversed reaction...). See the universal map of the 7 emotions on this site.

F

Freezing - Toxic freezing of stress tensions - Inhibition of action on the functional sensorimotor level - The 4 stages of unhappiness : Inhibition of action with 4 levels of organisation on a neurobiological level: freezing of stress in the body; repression of emotions in the mind; memory-reaction freeze of awareness of feelings; denial of traumatic memory.

Scientifically the root of malaise discovered by Dr Henri LABORIT in 1979. Confirmed at the neurosociobiological level in 2012 by Dr Gerhard ROTH and MOFFITT & CASPI (Duke University) concerning the interaction between environmental stress - genetics - brain (reality of epi-genetics and key role of the trio amygdala - hippocampus -insula).
In the ordinary emotional and social upbringing of our children, a 4-step awareness process to open our eyes to the psychosocial reality in our societies.

1. Firstly, to come out of denial, to accept the global statistical reality. Be willing to acknowledge the extent of the shortcomings, shocks, neglect and abuse of children.
2. Secondly, to recognise that children are asked to take on these ordinary childhood stresses, to forget these shortcomings, to over-adapt and to repress their pain.
3. Thirdly, understand that children shut down emotionally, they freeze in memory, they adopt social masks, they learn silence in their hearts.
4. Fourthly, adults develop disorders (anxiety, depression, phobia...), they suffer from symptoms (addiction, compulsion, sabotage...), they dysfunction (violence, perversion, toxic patterns...).
Technically, on the electrochemical memory-reaction level of the management of the sensorimotor energy of stress (muscle stimulations, brain connections), Freezing is close to the passive freezing of depression or the abusive vacuum of perversion. See the 1st medical imaging of emotions made in 2013 by Dr Lauri NUMENMAA to visually grasp the cooling impact of Freezing on the body, heart and mind.

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Happy Power To You - Universal scheme of individual need satisfaction - Basic scheme of happiness experience : Basic pattern of happiness experience, as opposed to toxic or destructive patterns (sickly painful repetition; poisonous rumination; abusive compulsion; negative vicious circle...). Scientific key to our functioning to learn happiness. Instructions for use with good sense, good taste and good order to be well in one's skin, well in one's head, well in one's body and well in one's heart.
The "Happy Power To You" operating key is made up of 4 powers to better learn through practical experience to satisfy one's needs; develop one's confidence; improve one's abilities; cultivate one's talents; master one's resources:

1. the power to feel well (perception of needs and resources with the 5 senses).

2. the power to think well (decision for opportunities and threats with the 7 emotions)

3. the power to act well (reaction for movement or avoidance of contact with the 3 stresses)

4. the power to remember well (experience things through awareness of the memory-reaction circuit).
"Happy Power To You" is a natural electrochemical sensorimotor learning process with normal memory and reaction. "Happy Power To You" is a key to learning happiness, i.e. a scientific formula for experiencing happiness. Scientifically, "Happy Power To You" is a cognitive-behavioural scheme based on the electrochemical sensorimotor life energy of stress (nerve stimulation in the muscles, neuronal connections in the brain) and integrating our memory-reaction circuitry of adaptation (personal movement in life with direction via stress, orientation via emotion, decision via the cortex, optimisation via memory)
"Happy Power To You" is a figurative trademark registered in 2020 to summarise the basic pattern of our functioning in terms of body-mind structure and memory-reaction organisation.
The Matrix is often in English because of the accuracy of the word "Right". Unlike the word "Good", "Right" better expresses the importance of common sense, good order and taste. "Right" expresses more clearly the psychosocial issues of stress disorder. Faced with the psychosocial consequences of memory-reaction disorder in our societies, "Right" better invites us to seek a certain serenity or stability in :

1. Sobriety in the body.

2. integrity of spirit.

3. Dignity in the heart.

4. the value at the memory level.

"Happy Power To You" also gives us food for thought about solutions to power relationships and the problem of power abuse in our tribes (Dr Henri LABORIT; My Uncle from America; human dominance and environmental destructiveness).
In contrast to "Happy Power", "Stress Disorder" is the dysfunctioning of the process of personal growth as a result of shocks, lack, abuse, trauma or neglect. Stress Disorder disrupts our normal functioning via reactive stress (the amygdala), emotional memory (the hippocampus) and interpretative consciousness (the insular cortex).
"Happy Power To You is an eco-responsible brand committed to emotional and social education. It aims to improve socio-economic satisfaction and psychosocial development.

Shame: Universal emotion whose vital function is the normalisation of relationships and social integration in the ties that bind us. A normal and natural emotion that reframes us in terms of threat/risk when there is abnormality and inhumanity in the management of our relationships and the meaning of our values. Universal emotion in the autopilot of our Feeling Machine in relation to social belonging, social integration and moral indignation. Healthy emotion to remain well human and well integrated. Emotion that effectively lengthens life expectancy by belonging to the social group. Humanistic emotion at the beginning that is often manipulated to become humiliation, mockery and object of rejection. It is important to know who should be ashamed and who has done it the wrong way around in reality when there are stories of smart people criticising, mocking, humiliating or abusing in a more or less toxic, underhand or visible way. "Name and shame", or the art of naming who should actually be shamed and why. It is important to know how to put shame in its place because it helps us to manage our social place and our normal humanism well in the first place. 

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Incest : Toxic and destructive dysfunction within the family. Destruction of trust, betrayal of the family, loss of sense of filiation, distrust in love. Psychological abuse leading to psycho-affective over-adaptation, traumatic depersonalisation and psycho-social denial, with compulsory lying and abandonment of healthy values.
Relational abuse resulting in a deep sense of bitterness and disgust. Emotional crime leading to emotional abandonment of the social bond, i.e. resulting in compulsive reproduction of the crime through moral disregard of social demands (P.R.A.F.; "Plus Rien à Foutre"). A looping pattern of emotional betrayal and moral abandonment with social resignation.
Destruction of trust and negation of the Word within the family with 4 dimensions (Dr Vincent LAUPIES; A.I.V.I, S.I.A):

1. breach of trust

2. narcissistic abuse

3. abuse of power

4. sexual abuse (touching without penetration in 3 out of 4 cases, which is enough to make you sick!)

Dysfunctional family system generating unbearable double binds (lying to one's family, contradiction with one's values, silence around a crime, obligation to forget, role reversal in terms of shame, toxic guilt in place of seriously ill abusers).
Dysfunction with affective lack, emotional poverty, psychological misery, moral horror and social silence (denial, taboo, traumatic amnesia, shame.).
Psychosocial crime rooted in humiliating perversion, self-centred egoism, 'psycho-affective-sexual' immaturity and repetitive memory-reaction compulsion. Psychological memo-reactionary disorder linked to the shock bug, the trauma repetition compulsion and the loss of common sense due to disgust (see impact of traumatic humiliation on the insular cortex discovered in 2012 by Dr Gerhard ROTH; see research work by Dr Murielle SALMONA on traumatic memory).
Incest? The "Family Mess" and "Stress Disorder" for all!

Stress Disorder" for all by rebound or perverse effect (P.T.S.D): the world upside down in denial; the family walking on its head (Dr Pierre SABOURIN). Twisted" dysfunction where the child becomes the object of manipulation, violence, humiliation, harassment, brainwashing and exploitation. Betrayal of the child's trust (Dr Susan FORWARD). Weapon of mass destruction of family trust. Emotional shock, moral desolation, psychic devastation. Emotional abandonment of the child, major family rupture, silencing of the truth. Weight of shame, denial and taboo.

Stress Disorder for all in our societies? Societies historically in a psychological culture of the unconscious and not in an awareness of the realities of stress. Difficult awakening since 1994 with cases being picked up by the bucketful. Sick and toxic abusers in the shadows or in secrecy; victims excluded in isolation or shame; irresponsible and passive parents; all in deep suffering or in total unconsciousness. A society that is complicit in denial, in the abuse of power, in the disregard of the extent of relational abuse and emotional lack through emotional illiteracy. Professionals in the justice, police and social sectors lacking training or in the abuse of complicit silence.
Stress Disorder" for all in our societies? Society that prefers to forget or deny with figures that break the law of silence: 10% of the French in a statistical survey published in the Provence in 2021; article by Delphine TANGUY and Sabrina TESTA entitled "They break the omerta"). A society that still prefers to ignore the links between incest, perversion, abuse of power and slavery on the etymological level (Dr. RACAMIER). A society that still prefers to turn a blind eye to the acknowledged history of incest between HITLER and his niece Geli RAUBAL (David CESARANI, Alice MILLER).

Inhibition of action - Repression of emotions - Denial of stress (Dr Henri LABORIT) : Painful freezing of stress tensions, internal blockage of pain, repression of emotions, freezing of feelings, blockage of memory. Blockage of the healthy, normal and natural reaction to lack, shock, neglect and abuse. Forbidding of normal indignation in the face of psycho-corporal pain. Denial of the scientific realities and psychosocial consequences of stress.

Key concept in "psycho-socio-neuro-biology" of social stress management and the brain of emotions. Freezing of behaviour, blocking of the emotional reaction, stopping of the motor, freezing of sensorimotor expression, psychosocial withdrawal, emotional isolation (Dr Henri LABORIT).

Key concept for discerning between behaviour in the movement of life (responsible, ecological and environmentally sustainable in meeting needs) and behaviour in the freezing of life (irresponsible, passive and environmentally toxic in meeting needs).

Key concept to understand the "Happy Power" versus the "Stress Disorder" on the electrochemical sensorimotor-memory-reactionary level. See the cult film "My Uncle from America" with Gérard DEPARDIEU.

Emotional intelligence : Ability to manage stress and to discern in our emotions (in the links that unite us, in our living environments). Ability to manage joy at 2 levels of functioning:
- the joy of success for oneself (self-realisation, satisfaction of needs, use of talents).

- the joy of sharing with others (pleasure of celebration, social integration, filial transmission).

Ability to manage one's general coping strategy to environmental stress in the right way, the right order and the right taste. Ability to recover in contact with others:

- the right direction of the 3 natural stresses in terms of movement (go to the contact of a healthy pleasure; avoid the contact of a toxic pain; stop the contact to actively recharge).
- the correct orientation of the 7 emotions in terms of reaction (go for joyful and benevolent opportunities; avoid toxic and unhealthy threats; abstain in totally contradictory or necessarily twisted situations).
- the good sense of interpretations in terms of the decisions to be made (discerning the right order of things in time; keeping the good taste of values in the light of the price of things in time; keeping the sense of the sacred and of life).

Moral intelligence : Ability to responsibly discern what is ecologically sound or sickly toxic. Ability to differentiate between responsible honest movement and deceptive passive abusive denial. Humanistic vision for healthy, ecological and sustainable satisfaction of human needs in society.

Humanistic choice to be attached to the reality of the facts; willingness to be committed to values. A taste for truth and justice; a sense of the sacred and of life; genuine caring for the natural and social environment; humanistic courage in accepting indignation. Respectful desire for the consciousness of life and the memory of feelings. Awareness of History: the Value of the Place of Things in the Light of Time.

Commitment to "Sobriety of Body - Integrity of Mind - Dignity of Heart - Value of Memory". Capacity for honesty, responsibility, reciprocity and fairness in exchanges. Awareness of being imperfect by nature, of being perfectible by choice, of being in the great movement of the cycle of life.

Sense of realities, responsibilities, roles and demands in the Giving - Receiving. Sense of justice, sharing, action and the Word. Taste for truth in action, for equity and reciprocity. Courage of honesty for a healthy, responsible, ecological and sustainable satisfaction of needs. Courage to be indignant in the face of denial and disregard for problems. Courage of indignation in the face of sickly irresponsible, passive, abusive, misleading and toxic behaviour.

Joy of individual success and social sharing (see emotional intelligence). Emotional intelligence is to meaning (rather of the order of the cingulate cortex), what moral intelligence is to value (rather of the order of the insular cortex), if we need to put the two in order.

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Joy : Universal emotion whose vital function is individual self-realisation and collective self-fulfilment in the bonds that unite us. A normal and natural emotion that orients us in terms of opportunity / luck / happiness when there is success and share in meeting our needs and relationships. Universal emotion in the autopilot of our Feeling Machine in relation to the personal growth of our talents, the development of our abilities and the sharing of our gifts. Emotion of the heart that signals the natural pleasure of self-fulfilment and the normal need for social contact in human beings for personal development. Learning to discern in consciousness in terms of level of organisation and satisfaction: the feeling of pleasure in the moment; the emotion of joy in the moment; the feeling of happiness over time. 

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Languages of love (Dr Gary CHAPMAN; book to be read "The 5 languages of love"): The 5 languages of love are :
1. gestures of tenderness.

2. positive and empowering words.

3. moments of sharing and quality.

4. responsible and caring support.

5. gifts.

The 5 love languages correspond to the preferred tastes that we have to fill our emotional reservoirs. They are like a personal typology to classify the signs of recognition, knowing that it is especially a question here of identifying well what allows you to fill up well in our loves. To go further if you have problems in love: the book of Dr Gary CHAPMAN.

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Mania : Symptom of parasitic stress tensions. Behavioural disorder with repetitive agitation, compulsive ritual, frequent obsession. Parasitic movement of toxic stress with regular abuse, parasitic impulse, toxic drive, untimely practice. Behaviour often associated with a false belief, magical thinking, false obsession or deceptive fantasy in an attempt to control stress or relieve pain (similar concept to OCD in this respect).

Activation of the "Stress Disorder" in compulsion mode, i.e. in a loop, with a vicious circle, with a rebound effect, with sensorimotor repetition, with memory-reaction compulsion. State of psycho-corporal stress linked to the tensions of a lack, a shock, a neglect or an abuse (E.S.P.T or P.T.S.D). Mania sometimes unconscious (see Dr Murielle SALMONA for traumatic memory; see Dr Arthur JANOV for body memory).

Motivation - Motivational circuits: Memory-reaction circuits that condition the learning of our experiences to :

- Moving towards the positive / Activating contact towards healthy rewards, fulfilling encounters, ecological gratification, responsible recognition and lasting pleasure. Knowing how to go towards the right people, healthy resources and positive opportunities. Knowing how to work on one's abilities, cultivate one's talents, develop one's means, improve one's good sense and good taste. Knowing how to face the reality of the facts, knowing how to act responsibly, knowing how to get going in a healthy, ecological and sustainable way.

- Escaping the negative / Avoiding contact with violent punishment, abusive toxicity, deceptive seduction, irresponsible destructiveness and sickly pain. Escaping from lack and abuse; escaping from violence, manipulation, risks and threats. Knowing how to say no to psychosocially sick, passive, abusive behaviour.

- Know how to say STOP / Turn off the ignition to better recharge the batteries. Putting the head at rest to better sort, discern and keep. Putting the body on pause to better prevent saturation, indigestion and exhaustion. Putting a destructive pattern or toxic relationship on STOP.

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Panic - Panic attack Fear of not making it, pressure to succeed, stress to succeed at all costs, anxiety about what will happen.

Too much pressure, high demand pattern, poisonous over-adaptation with undue stress or toxic driver pressure: "Be strong", "Be perfect", "Try harder", "Hurry up" and "Be happy" (memory-reaction patterns of personal conditioning with false beliefs).

Need to breathe, to blow, to lower the pressure, to open up to life, to cultivate letting go, to give oneself the time to live and to let oneself live.

Fatigue, exhaustion. Lack of confidence in the future, need to develop confidence in the movement of life, need to recharge our batteries in the bond of trust with Nature. "Don't panic, breathe, walk, rest, recharge...". See T.O.C, anxiety, stress and burn-out.

Passivity - Passive-aggressive : Protective strategy through freezing, non-movement, closure, silent concealment or indirect stimulation. Irresponsible behaviour in freezing, procrastination of the body and rumination of the mind. Defence strategy through the use of withdrawal, bubble, waiting and isolation. Denial of facts with sickly, passive and abusive abandonment in denial of realities and responsibilities. Defensive behaviour in freezing, inhibition, observation, control, distrust, contempt or complacency. Tendency to emotional depression (procrastination, rumination...) and relational manipulation (closure, silence, inaction...) with personal disempowerment and emotional avoidance, in abusive victimisation, caretaking, co-dependency, "discreet" stimulation of others or "jovial" seduction of people.

Tendency to deny realities, to close oneself off from others, to silence emotions, to ignore solutions and to reject responsibilities. Disregard for problems, needs and demands in relationships. Denial of reciprocity and fairness in order to move forward together.

Woundedness of connection, emotional abandonment, closure of the person which may be accompanied by the respiratory stress of confinement, emotional stress of commitment, panic fear of getting out, rage and despair at not getting out. Need for connection, sharing and humour. Need for joyful resources. Need for trust in time.

Perversion : "Pervertare" in Latin means to turn or reverse, i.e. verbatim "to do it to you backwards". Loss of common sense and good taste in the perverted person, linked to a disorder of the insular cortex in connection with shocks, lacks and abuse in childhood (Dr Gerhard ROTH).

Difference between structurally perverse personality (with pleasure in harming or sadism) and occasional perverse behaviour (with abusive manipulation or intrusive seduction techniques).

Reactive memory disorder linked to post-traumatic stress disorder. Strong statistical correlation directly linked to sexual abuse. Key role of incest according to Dr. RACAMIER, founding father of the psychology of perversion in France: "Perversion is incest".

Attack or defence strategy to reverse the roles, turn the situation upside down, disturb the good sense of values, make you lose the good taste. Psychosis through inner emptiness, with good external social adaptation, with mask (Dr C.G JUNG). Masked strategy of manipulation, seduction, domination or underhand violence.

Fear : A universal emotion whose vital function is the protection of the person and the prevention of risk in our living environment. A normal and natural emotion that orients us in terms of threat/risk when there is danger and unknown. Universal emotion in the autopilot of our Feeling Machine in relation to sustainable survival, healthy protection and responsible prevention. A warning signal or emotion that most people easily understand in terms of risk prevention and opportunity/threat management in our decision making or life choice orientations. Emotion that often helps people easily understand the importance of emotional intelligence and the impact of emotions in decision making. Clearly discerning the following emotional construct or levels of organisation: nervous tension as a more or less well managed vital or sensorimotor energy; stress as a motor reaction of fear via the amygdala of the brain (3 stresses to confront/attack, avoid/flee, freeze/rest); distrust as a feeling of fear; anxiety as a fear of not getting out of it; surprise as an unexpected stimulation or unpredictable contact (more or less pleasant shock) 

Phobia : Flight, avoidance, withdrawal or isolation behaviour. Avoidance usually associated with parasitic stress, excessive fear, abnormal shame or other dysfunctional feelings.

Phobia is an emotional "bug" or stress-related memory-reaction disorder that can attach itself to objects, animals, people or places. Phobia sometimes resembles a panic attack or OCD. See these definitions.

Physical procrastination : More or less severe sickness. Vitality disorder, passivity, excessive immobility, lack of physical activity, need for air, sign of exhaustion (see burn-out). Procrastination is one of the many symptoms of depression as a sensorimotor disorder. Procrastination is often accompanied by rumination (see definition).

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Mental rumination : Sickly looping thoughts with disproportionate stress, accumulated emotions, abusive mentalization, compulsive interpretation and excessive guilt.

Poisonous collection of past feelings: excessive guilt, toxic shame, melancholy sadness, destructive rage. Weary preoccupation with the future.

Self-reinforcing depressing and stressful process because of rumination loop with false beliefs, repression of emotions, accumulation of feelings.

Denial of stress and passivity in managing one's needs. Sick, passive and abusive rumination with denial of reality. Rumination is often accompanied by procrastination or passivity (see definitions).

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Cognitive schema - Behavioural pattern - False belief : Natural functioning of the brain to learn ways of doing, ways of coping, ways of interpreting, rules of operation. Natural memory-reaction conditioning: learning from an experience; habituation of a behaviour; protection put in place; survival strategy.

Normal pattern or protective mode in the face of pain? Learned solution or automatic defence? Customary or maladaptive reaction? True or false belief? Normal emotion or

disproportionate? Toxic or healthy pattern? Importance of discerning whether pattern of success (normal functioning) or failure (toxic or destructive pattern).

Functioning set up with body reaction and mind interpretation linked to memory (awareness of experiences and history). Learned way of doing, habitual way of reacting. Learned experience of feeling, thinking and reflecting. Importance of education, experience and learning. Impact of shocks, lacks, traumas and abuse.

Problem of false interpretations, limiting over-adaptations and cognitive biases in the learning process. Problem of stress disorder with false limiting beliefs, toxic beliefs or abusive lies. Problem of toxic patterns with excessive guilt, unjust shame, abnormal submission, control (rumination, self-victimisation in the KARPMAN Triangle).

Sentiment : In order to experience a feeling, there must first be a process of memory. Integration in time of a life experience. Cognitive association as a result of an emotional experience or as a result of an affective link. Time work in interpreting facts, digesting emotions and understanding relationships.

Sensation : Body signal, perception linked to the 5 senses. Visual, auditory, olfactory, kinesthetic or gustatory stimulation (VAKOG).

Internal and external information related to the ear, nose, mouth, skin and eyes (tense/relaxed; pleasant/unpleasant; light/heavy; hot/cold; day/night, silence/noise...).

"Seum" - Importance and impact of disgust: "J'ai trop le seum" means exactly "I'm too pissed off" (Planète Marseille). In other words, "I have the nerves, I am disgusted, I am too stressed" (La Haine; 1995; Mathieu KASSOWITZ). This expression, which is now quite common in the Marseillais language, uses the etymological richness of the Arabic word "Seum".

"Seum" originally meant snake poison, snake venom or disgust poison in the field of stress (Spit out your Venom; 1979; TELEPHONE). Depending on the tradition or culture, it is the therapeutic symbol of the snake, of the reptilian Kundalini, of the alchemical transformation of pain, or even more simply of the logo of the pharmacy near you (Dr Gérard GUASCH; Paolo COELHO).

"The Seum is very interesting in the field of the right sensory dosage of need satisfaction and the right electrochemical sense of stress management. It is deeply thought-provoking about the importance of humanistic respect and the impact of humiliation in our innermost wounds. This word sheds light on the key role of the insular cortex in our emotional brains: the right sense of orientation, the right taste of appetite, the right dose of satisfaction, the awareness of saturation in Space or Time (Dr Gerhard ROTH

Dr Antonio DAMASIO; Albert EINSTEIN).

"The Seum" gives us the opportunity to remember together the emotional importance of respecting our appetites (sobriety and the limits of our desires), our preferences (integrity and the limits of our choices) and our limits (our dignity and the limits) in the ties that bind us.

The "Seum" gives us to remember the scientific fact that the poison is in the dosage, in the abuse or the lack in relation to the satisfaction of our needs, in the saturation or the negligence in relation to the management of our relationships. A little tension in our bodies or in our hearts literally allows us to "get off our butts" or "get going", it is the normal reaction of the movement of life, it is the natural electrochemical sensorimotricity of stress. Too much tension or irritation exhausts, over-stimulates, poisons or destroys life ("burn-out" or exhaustion stress; "rumination" with agitation or depression; "I'm too pissed off, I'm too angry, I'm disgusted" with irritation stress or reactionary violence).

Sign of recognition : Basic unit in social contacts, relational transactions, affective exchanges or emotional sharing in the psychosocial economy of Giving-Receiving (The Stroke Economy; Dr Eric BERNE). A basic unit for recharging batteries, filling up on emotional sweetness, nourishing psychosocial satisfaction in our relationships.

Signs of gratification, signs of distinction, verbal and non-verbal exchanges, rituals and symbols to validate each other, customs and traditions to value ourselves in our tribes.

To go further: The 5 universal languages of love (Gary CHAPMAN); "The Tale of the Hot and Cold" (Claude STEINER); the circuits of reward and pain (Dr Henri LABORIT).

Stress : Electrochemical nerve tension or sensorimotor life energy which is the key to our behavioural functioning on a basic energetic level. Nerve tension, sensation with stimulation, signal or needs, reaction, satisfaction of needs, relaxation...

Sensorimotor tension which is the core of the problem of body functioning of the satisfaction of needs and dysfunctions linked to the badly managed tensions in our tribes, at several levels of organisation in our relationships or emotions. Tension that is the source of stimulation in movement and the root of pain in immobility.

Electrochemical sensorimotor stimulation called nerve tension, muscle stimulation and brain connection according to the level of organisation of body and mind.

Electrochemical sensorimotor stimulation allowing us to feel, think and act in the context of managing our reactions and satisfying our needs.

General strategy of adaptation to our living environment. Strategic adaptation reaction with 3 scientifically recognised reactions for :

1. reach out (to seek healthy food, positive resources, beneficial opportunities and other solutions for our sustainable development).

2. avoid contact (to escape dangers, threats and other ties that are toxic to our sustainable development).

3. turn off the ignition (to rest, recharge the batteries, wait for new resources before moving).

Sensory-memory-reactionary process normally enriched by life experiences to learn to better adapt, to better react and to better satisfy one's needs.

The negative experience of stress is called powerlessness in the management of one's life energy. It is synonymous with painful tension, sickly freezing, irresponsible reaction and anxious rumination. See the "Stress disorder" in our tribes (Dr Henri LABORIT; impact of action inhibition or "Freezing").

The positive experience of stress is called Force Control, Sensorimotor Fluidity, Reactionary Control and Happy Power in the context of responsible, ecological and sustainable management of our needs.

Stress Disorder : Stress disorders" in the English language. The term comes from PTSD or post-traumatic stress disorder. A mind-body dysfunction characterised by dissociation, cognitive bias, compulsion and denial. Respectively some disconnection of the 5 senses, rumination of the 7 emotions, agitation of the 3 stresses, traumatic amnesia between pain and pleasure. Technically in mirror on the level of our universal biological structure with the power to feel well with the 5 senses, to think well with the 7 emotions, to act well with the 3 stresses and to remember well with the 2 circuits of motivation. See Happy Power to complete this understanding in a possible permutation between Stress Disorder dysfunction and Happy Power functioning (normal functioning pattern versus toxic, dysfunctional or parasitic pattern; toxic pattern with stress disorder versus healthy pattern with well-being)

Respiratory stress at birth - Brain anoxia : Respiratory stress due to frequent difficulties at birth (cord around the neck, emergency caesarean section, forceps, incubator...). Blue Baby" syndrome with lack of oxygen to the infant or poor fetal oxygenation at birth. Stress by anoxia of the infant's brain.

Stress impacting the cerebral amygdala and body memory with fear of suffocation, fear of dying, fear of not getting out, stress of confinement, stress of commitment. Respiratory stress at the origin of many panic attacks in adulthood (phobia; avoidance..).

Oxygen deprivation stress of varying severity at the time of birth (sometimes at the fetal stage). Respiratory stress at the time of leaving the mother's womb. Respiratory stress at the time of entry into life. Stress that may be related to attachment stress (see definition, with lack of oxytocin) because of the same period of life (incubator, infant sleeping).

Stress at the respiratory level directly linked to the body through the autonomic neurovegetative nervous system.

1 in 5 births is statistically difficult on average, with more or less significant oxygen deficiencies (cord around the neck, blocked babies, forceps, episiotomy, ...). 1 in 5 births in France is an emergency caesarean, rarely a comfort caesarean. Before we used to talk about infant mortality at birth, about severely cyanotic babies, today we are starting to talk about the level of oxygen anoxia in the brain.

The notion of post-traumatic stress at birth is not yet really recognised by professionals in France. We are only just beginning to make the link with post-traumatic stress memory in the body, with respiratory stress and with the adult triggering of panic fears of not getting out, of being locked up, of not making it, of suffocating, of dying.

To better understand this respiratory stress, this panic fear of confinement or this anxiety-inducing need to get out of there quickly: see the pioneering research work of Dr Arthur JANOV on the levels of organisation of the "Reptilian - Limbic - Cortex" brains (Le Corps Se Souvenir ; La Biologie de l'Amour ; Dr A.JANOV).

This is an area where medical research is making rapid progress because the amygdala and hippocampus of the stress circuit are formed quite quickly in the foetus. Awareness is growing.

Over-adaptation : A survival scheme, a defence system, a mode of protection or a social mask to adapt to environmental stress in our tribes.

Psychosocial conditioning, emotional over-adaptation. Behavioural pattern to cope with stress. Relational coping strategies ranging from normal social masking to pathological depersonalisation.

Habitual behaviour to adapt to others or survive in a toxic environment. Relational adaptation strategy to fit into a family systemic where KARPMAN's Dramatic Triangle is played out (see definition).

Relational dysfunction that can lead to forgetting oneself, denying oneself, losing one's integrity or losing one's identity. "Please", "Be strong", "Try harder", "Be perfect" and "Try harder" are the 5 basic toxic patterns in over-adaptation.

Imposter syndrome : Symptom of confusion about one's place or doubt about one's worth without any reason in reality. Misperception of one's relational legitimacy, personal desire or social belonging with disproportionate parasitic guilt and toxic shame. Abnormal, abusive and disproportionate assumption of fault or role reversal in terms of responsibility. Poor self-awareness and self-doubt due to parasitic shame, damaged self-esteem and disturbed self-image. Loss of common sense in relation to evil, pain and fault in a certain disconnection from reality, repression of emotions or depersonalisation. Problems with lack of healthy assertiveness and abuse of self in a certain toxic self-victimisation to set things right. Pertubation linked to a state of stress, abnormal fear or toxic pattern (inversion of things; stress disorder between lack and abuse with guilt, fear and shame; confusion or mistrust turned in on oneself).

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OCD - Obsessive Compulsive Disorder: Fixation to reassure oneself, obsession to control, compulsion to control, strategy to hold on, stress 'bug' to have some kind of power over things. See also the definition of Mania.

Concentration on "one's own little thing" to avoid "one's own big fear" (stress of emptiness, abandonment, annihilation, desolation, death...). Psycho-corporal fear linked to the stress of attachment and commitment (see definition). Difficult to grasp this stress without listening to the body, as body memory is important here (panic at the level of sensations).

Dysfunctional way of dealing with stress, easing pain or calming fear. Parasitic behaviour in an attempt to control emotional bugs, control feelings or maintain emotional repression. Emotionally disproportionate or factually inappropriate behaviour. See mania, depression, anxiety.

Trauma - Post-traumatic stress : Significant event. Significant shock, withdrawal or abuse related to a stressful situation with 4 characteristics:

1. the unpredictability of the situation (change in the natural order of things, the surprise effect, not what is normally expected).

2. the emotional intensity of the situation (shock, level of pain, intensity of withdrawal).

3. lack of understanding of the situation (general confusion, loss of natural common sense, abnormal disorder, personal flabbergasting, collective hallucination).

4. powerlessness to react in the situation (lack of resources, freezing of the body, freezing of the mind, inhibition of action, repression of emotions).

KARPMAN's Dramatic Triangle - Dramatisation : Psychological game with social masks to hide the dysfunctional realities in our societies and the psychosocial consequences of stress in our tribes.

3 masks or roles in KARPMAN's Dramatic Triangle: Persecutor - Saviour - Victim.

3 masks linked respectively to the 3 stress reactions: Fight (confrontation of the Persecutor); Fly (avoidance of the Saviour); Freeze (freezing of the Victim).

Destructive power play with dramatisation of situations: abuse of power by the Persecutors; over-adaptation by the Saviours; submission by the Victims.

Power play with denial of realities, displacement of responsibilities and role reversal. Psychological game with denial of history, disregard for problems, passivity of people, abuse of trust, excessive guilt and passive-aggressive violence.

Here is the Great Question of KARPMAN's Dramatic Triangle: "What are the serious people doing in this great story of heart disease" (Dr Eric BERNE; Dr Stephen KARPMAN; Claude STEINER).

To a little game of mentally irresponsible people in the management of their 3 stresses, their 7 emotions and their 350 universal needs, which scientifically direct their brain in reality (Dr Henri LABORIT).

A little relational game, more or less positive, more or less dramatic, depending on the stakes of the story and the level of emotional illiteracy of the people (Isabelle FILLIOZAT).

To a little psycho-relational game in the form of staging, dramatisation, Social Masks, Grand Cinema or script rehearsal in the management of our needs and our relationships.

To the historically recognised Commedia Dell' Arte, to mental blah blah blah whose music we know, to the cream pie and the masquerade, to predictable stories and bad movies already seen (Dr Susan FORWARD).

To a little power play between friends around the realities and consequences of stress to try to differentiate psychologically between us the Persecutor - the Saviour - the Victim in our stories.

A process of mental protection against pain, where one releases one's tensions on others, where one makes trouble with others, where one makes others pay, in order to avoid facing one's own suffering in one's own history.

To a more or less criminal power game, with the reality of the facts of history, with the real responsibility of each one, with the pain in powerlessness, with the abuse of power, with the denial, within the framework of the mismanagement of our needs, of our stresses, of our emotions and of our relationships (James BALDWIN).

To a relational dynamic of denial of pain for our families in the end.

A looping pattern of role reversal between Parents and Children in our societies, with Parents abusing their children due to lack of emotional education in our societies, and Children forgetting the psychosocial key to emotional education due to amnesiac loyalty to their dysfunctional parents.

Sadness : Universal emotion whose vital function is the management of links and relationships in our living environments. It is a normal and natural emotion when there is loss, separation or termination in the ties that bind us in our life's evolution. Emotion that guides us in managing our attachments, changes, transitions and grief. Emotion that guides us to accept our connections, feel our grief and move on. 

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Value - Sense of values - True Life Awareness - Environmental Awareness : A value is something that has no price, it is sacred in essence. In terms of value, 'life is priceless', as a meaningful example (Telephone; 1979).

A choice criterion is something that matters, i.e. something that is important in making a decision. Money is a choice criterion in the management of our resources.

The sense of values is the humanistic awareness of the Sacred and of Life. The sense of values is rooted in the ecological taste for Nature and Truth. The supreme value is the healthy truth in the Human Sciences, as opposed to the abusive lie or the toxic denial.

The sense of values is the sense of truth in action, in the responsible awareness of our living environments. The sense of values leads to a reflection on the truth of resources and on human justice. The sense of values leads to reflection on the need for emotional and social education, in terms of healthy resources for responsible people in our living environments.

Moral intelligence is a philosophy of value, it is linked to an awareness of history, the environment and the place of time. Moral intelligence is a philosophy of sustainable value of resources in the light of Time, in Life. Moral intelligence is perhaps the sharpened memory-reaction sense of the Place of Things, the Value of Things, the Movement of Things and the Time of Things, in the light of the reality of the facts in our history, in the reciprocity and fairness of Giving and Receiving, in the responsibility of people in the ties that bind us.

Violence : Feeling helpless in the face of tension, misunderstanding of relationships or exhaustion in the face of stress.
Differentiate in the forms of violence, with discernment, humility and empathy, without dramatizing or demonizing:
1. Dramatically repetitive violence (with memory-reaction disorder due to childhood injuries; Stress Disorder P.T.S.D).
2. anger, unfortunately exceptional (fatigue, burn-out, bad surprise, accumulation...).

In the following, we will mainly talk about violence related to "Stress Disorder". Violence can be seen as :
✓ Sign of helplessness in the healthy satisfaction of one's needs; sign of denial of realities; sign of badly managed stress. Symptom of emotional illiteracy; symptom of emotional poverty or moral misery; symptom of emotional neglect.

✓ Silly and nasty gesture; brutal and quick impulse; easy and destructive reaction; devious and toxic manipulation to get away with it.

✓ Malicious or unhealthy solution. Abusively aggressive or toxically passive reaction. Disregard for respect of life values. Lack of benevolence.

✓ Impulsive, abusive or toxic behaviour; passive, seductive or devious manipulation; compulsive, impulsive or obsessive harassment; poisonous, hateful or critical disgust.

✓ Mad rage or blind hatred; sickly passivity or dramatic denial; pathological misunderstanding or serious ignorance; abusive interpretation or ordinary lying.

✓ Dysfunctional reaction with mainly: relational tension ("bug" of mismanaged stress); destructive rage ("bug" of mismanaged anger); active despair ("bug" of mismanaged sadness); emotional contempt ("bug" of mismanaged disgust); moral abandonment ("bug" of mismanaged shame).

✓ Crisis or failure scenario related to poor memory-reaction management of stress and emotions, in meeting one's needs and relationships.

✓ Emotional illiteracy. Emotional impotence, psychosocial ignorance, memory-reaction denial and moral disregard in dealing with stress, anger and sadness.

✓ Lack of healthy boundaries, positive resources and fruitful capacities. Denial of realities, loss of responsibility, lack of shame, abuse of pride, playing with the force of things and the order of things, disregard for demands, rejection of values.

✓ Shocking acting out, poisonous passivity, unconscious sabotage or underhanded manipulation, signs of psychoaffective emotional powerlessness in the relationship.

✓ Poor relational solution with abuse of power, explosive reaction, rebound effect or power relationship. Relational symptom of feelings of powerlessness, saturation, exhaustion and disregard in the area of stress, needs and emotions management.

✓ Reactionary problem mainly related to stress memory-reaction disorders ("Stress Disorder" versus "Happy Power"; E.S.P.T) and emotional illiteracy.

✓ Lack of positive resources and emotional education to find a better solution, to be able to act better in a healthy and socially responsible way in meeting one's needs.

✓ Ordinary reality and domestic consequence of denial of the importance of stress and emotions in our societies. Symptom of hatred and disgust, ignorance and passivity, contempt and denial. Rebound effect of denial of the realities of stress, repression of emotions and inhibition of action (Dr Henri LABORIT and Alain RESNAIS; My Uncle from America).

✓ Impact of ruminations of pain, destructive rage, sadness of despair and disgust of disgust. Social habit taken for millennia of destructiveness or toxicity, in poisonous passivity or sly silence.

✓ Toxic loyalty to dysfunctional systems or destructive operating principles, in denial of realities, responsibilities and values.

✓ Explosion of feelings of incomprehension, helplessness, impasse and panic related to emotional illiteracy.

A process of denial of tensions, ignorance of realities, ignorance of difficulties or disregard for problems, with a more or less rapid rise to the top in five stages:
1. denial of the problem.

2. minimisation of the problem.

3. wrong solutions to the problem.

4. agitation around the issue.

5. acting out to solve the problem in a destructive, unfair or toxic way.

Violence is a catch-all word that makes us think psychosocially about :

✓ destructive rage (healthy anger over needs, the pain of lack).

✓ social desolation (desirable sadness in relation to relationships, sorrow in our hearts).

✓ environmental toxicity (normal disgust, natural saturation, legitimate indignation).

✓ natural shame (disregard for social normality, denial of realities).

✓ Emotional and social education (resources and abilities versus demands).